No soup for you! (which clip came right after the "current music")

[zdashamber]

Tonight: a hilariously appalling house meeting. One hour was useful stuff: we will be having a garage sale this Saturday and Sunday, and shit will by god leave our house! And hopefully the credit card offers I carefully sort for my housemates will now be thrown away within days instead of waiting weeks for the cleaning lady to move them to a single pile on the table where they're probably still composting.

However, apparently Flat Hair Girl had sent an email to Spiky Hair Girl about shutting off the kitchen light in the early morning. The other hour of the meeting, interspersed amongst the first like a gradient fade of face-hiding winces, was Spiky quietly ranting about how Flat doesn't get that Spiky is trying and forgets and Flat doesn't appreciate the sacrifices we make for her... And Flat not appreciating the sacrifices. I mean, it went about as well as... Well, it was pretty good for what it was. Flat is remarkable about not getting mad, and about trying to pick out specific things to do; not so good about recognizing opportunities to suck it up. Spiky's ranting without mostly being facile or mean. I'm all, shit, I've seen shrinks on TV... (Well, I'm a bit better than that, but) trying to restate both sides and find common ground, but... And Dread Girl, natural ally of Spiky, was also a restating/fairmaking/calming influence... And I'm trying to be fair to Flat, because I do gain a bit by her rules even though I lose a lot, but Spiky can't get past Flat's lack of soak (which lack of soak is somewhat related to Flat's disability, but somewhat not)... How far do we let Spiky get it out and on the table versus not having Flat feel like she's being beaten like a redheaded stepchild?... OMG.

On the plus side, I've got a beer again, and I recognize how hilarious this all is. Distinctly moved past tragedy and into farce. SNL territory. If Bruce Dickinson wants more cowbell, we should probably give him more cowbell!

I'm actually feeling pretty sanguine about how we're coming together as a band. ;)

Comments

[motleypolitico.livejournal.com]

Recommend using a towel along bottom of door to keep light out from kitchen. :)

Ha! Pragmatism!

Also thinking Flat Hair needs to be reminded, bluntly, that much behavior is changed on her behalf, and that showing a little flexibility of her own now and again would be in the spirit of good natured compromise. Am with the 'take this opportunity to acknowledge that you too, can suck it up and deal' school.

Disabled != Pampered Beyond Reason and Always Gets Her Way

[zdashamber.livejournal.com]

Right, that's exactly where Spiky Hair Girl was coming from. It was just kind of awkward that she kept coming for like an hour and we couldn't figure out a way to get past it. ;)

[motleypolitico.livejournal.com]

I recommend a large bludgeon for this, so that it may be applied and then laid aside in fairly short order.

The bludgeon: We are reasonable people here. If you have living requirements that specific and inflexible, perhaps you should find alternative living arrangements where you don't have shared housing. Now, shall we talk about suitable compromises inherent in shared housing arrangements?

Heartless, perhaps, but it gets straight into it without preamble, and doesn't allow for the hour of continual pounding, since it moves straight into the 'how do we compromise' area, and keeps the blame stage mercifully short. She's not bargaining from a position of strength here - it's a lot easier for you to make her miserable, than the reverse, since she's the one asking for special allowances on her behalf. Her ability to make unilateral demands is pretty non-existent.

[beth_leonard]

Reading this reminds me how lucky we were to have you guys (and Drew!) for house mates.
--Beth